Why I Love Spending Time With People I Hate
A Year of Being Better — Day 7 of 365
Saturday, January 9th, 2016 — Approx. 11:20 P.M.
Part of gratitude is looking for the good in bad situations.
In order to be thankful for something, you need to be looking for that person or thing’s positive qualities. As hard as it may be, this also goes for people you don’t get along with and situations that are stressful or that you dislike.
It gets even harder to look for the good in people you dislike when you can’t help but be close to them. Maybe they’re in your family, maybe they’re your in-laws or maybe they’re just your significant other’s best friend. Constantly being around them tends to just reinforce how much you dislike them and don’t get along with them.
Since gratitude is something I’m currently working on and this is something I’ve had to deal with regularly, I decided to flip things around for a change.
Instead of being frustrated by the constant reminders of why I don’t get along with someone, I decided to consider it my advantage to have so many opportunities for finding positive qualities in the people I tend to dislike.
Of course my opinion of those people hasn’t necessarily changed and they still might stress me out, but by making good of a bad situation I am now able to be more friendly with them and more positive about our time together. This in turn makes them more friendly with me and more likely to deal with me in a civil manner (score!).
Another benefit to actively looking for the good in people is that you spend less time stressing about all of the things you don’t like about them. You essentially keep your mind so occupied with positive things that you don’t notice the bad things as much.
Looking for the good in people makes life less stressful and more enjoyable because you are making a conscious decision to be a positive influence in the world
I know for a fact there are people out there who probably can’t stand me. Everything I do probably annoys the heck out of them and they probably have a hard time seeing the good in me. But I know that I would want them to look for it. I would want them to try their best to see what’s good in my personality despite my glaring imperfections and stupid mistakes.
If I would want someone to give me that courtesy, it’s only fair that I do the same.
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