Do you ever feel like it is groundhogs day? You get up in the morning to the same morning routine, then head off to work, where your level of fulfillment ranges from zero to somewhat, and then head home to your afternoon routine, eat, sleep, repeat. Even leisure activities become routine and you act as if you are on autopilot. The weekends are slightly different as you add daily excursions to the mall or other places you usually do not go to in the work week and consume more food and sleep more to pass the time. Or, better yet you constantly look forward to your next vacation or break to escape the boredom of everyday life?
Or do you have a job where you have to work constantly and never get a break to think? Never a moment to say wait a minute, what am doing here? Only afterwards, you arrive home to cook, clean, wash clothes….and try to tackle the other endless tasks to keep your house a float.
Furthermore, at work are you succeeding at the wrong thing. Successful at things others feel that you should be, but in the end not fulfilled? Have you ever thought about what will happen in 10 years if you stay? A promotion or two, a bigger paycheck, or even worse yet, you do not change at all. While at the same time, there is a bigger void between what you are doing and what you are truly passionate about. Additionally, you might have all the consumer luxuries that anyone can ask for, yet you still feel unfulfilled. Can anyone relate?
Tony Robbins said that “If your mind is not right, then your life is not right.” I agree, as this is where I was about two years ago. At a job I liked, had a great wife, and traveled the world. Yet I still felt that I had no purpose and unfulfilled with my life. It was like there was a disconnect from what I thought should be accomplishing and what I was actual accomplishing. This lead me to unhealthy habits to numb the pain. Overeating, drinking, and pursuing passive activities like watching seasons of Netflix in a day. I wanted to get up every morning and feel energized and excited to tackle the day, but yet most days I would get up, eat breakfast, and went to work, come home and then repeat. If you have ever seen a hamster in a wheel mindlessly running to no where in particular, that was what I felt like.
My inner potential was just that, potential, untapped, underdeveloped, and not being utilized. In addition, this non use of my abilities lead me to release my frustration out in other outlets. For example, I would get into arguments with my wife over the littlest of things. “Why did you not put the phone back where it belongs!” I would yell and say hurtful things but would apologize and vow not to repeat what I did before, but eventually something else would happen and again I would lash out. Little did I know, that this lack of purpose and direction was slowly taking me down a terrible tailspin, and the scariest part was that it was unnoticeable on a day to day basis. Although there would be days where I would say to myself, “Man, I really need to change,” I would normally just associate this need to change due to something that did not go my way that day, and say something on the lines of “no, that was a fluke and tomorrow will be better.” You know what, tomorrow was usually not better.
It finally occurred to me on my 35th birthday that I needed a change. I was overweight, out of shape, and my relationships with the people I loved most were at an all time low. I knew I needed a change, but I had more questions than answers. Questions like “Why do I feel this way?” also “What would not make me feel like this anymore?” or “Who can provide help?” The list went on and on.
Enter Steve Jobs. No, he did not appear in my living room physically, but an article that I was reading on Facebook referenced his 2005 commencement speech at Stanford. Steve said that “You got to find what you love. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” Light bulb! Now this is where in a hollywood movie I am spurred to make the dramatic changes to create a fairy tale ending, but it did not. Although I felt inspired, that quickly faded when I then swiped to the next Facebook item in my newsfeed.
I am not sure how much longer it was, maybe a week or so but I read another article on my Facebook feed from Warren Buffet. He wrote “I get to work in a job that I love, but I have always worked in a job I loved. I loved it just as much when I thought it was a big deal to make $1000. I urge you to work in jobs that you love.” Light bulb again, but this time it did stick. As we know, Steve and Warren are pretty successful individuals and if both of them were encouraging others to pursue something that they loved, then I thought why not give it a shot.
So I decided that I wanted to find what I was passionate about and wake up everyday ready to engage in something that I loved, but there was still one HUGE lingering question. You might be asking the same one, “How?”
How does one find what they are passionate about?
After you find out, how do you pursue it?
How do you achieve it?
These are the questions that led me on my current path in discovering, pursuing, and achieving my dreams or my DPA process. I wanted to discover what I was passionate about, pursue it on a consistent basis, and then achieve my dreams.
So if you feel the same in anyway shape or form, join me on my journey. I will share the tips and strategies in order to help you with yours!