Every time I have seen the term used it has been to describe violent, volatile, power hungry sexist…

Well I wasn’t using alpha that way — I get that’s the typical stereotype, but men can be leaders without being bullish buffoons. I find myself in an alpha role fairly frequently, when I stop and take zen break to observe what’s going on, yet I’m exactly as you describe: A gentleman, soft spoken, kind, and so baby faced I got carded into my 30's.

There are situations where the biggest, loudest guy is the one in charge, but sometimes it’s just the person that everybody sees as the expert.

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