You see the thing is that I just don’t understand why it’s a problem.

Some people are better at communicating than others, it’s simple. It’s amazing that you and your partners have great communication. You probably had good role models, or it’s an instinctual skill for you and your partner.

Unfortunately, you’re in the minority. Poor communication is one of the largest issues that couple therapists deal with. Open and honest communication doesn’t come naturally for most people and it’s a skill that needs to be improved upon.