Day #12 : Where’s the humility?

Lusid
Lusid
Jul 23, 2017 · 3 min read

Pride comes before the fall.

A lot of people I’ve been meeting recently are so proud, it’s crazy. They’re proud of their so called “unique perspective” and knowledge that they think they have and other bullshit. It’s deeply annoying. Humility precedes authority. Ego,pride,narcissism, it’s all the same. They think that their opinion is so precious that interrupting someone else is justified. They always seek attention and prioritise speaking over listening. You can tell this by spending 5mins with the person. They’re so desperate for flushing out their thoughts and emotions. Get a grip on yourself, you fuckin looser. I wanna shout inside their head “You are not a unique snowflake.” Nobody gives a shit. The only thing valuable to come out of your mouth is solicited feedback. And most of the times, it’s unsolicited. Take my dad for example. He asks me what I’m eating. When I tell him what I’m eating, he dismisses it and says “Na that’s bad stuff.” And I’m like “Well then why the hell did you ask what I was eating? And nobody here was asking for your damn opinion of my food.” That’s the takeaway here, I guess. Don’t give out unsolicited advice or feedback especially if it’s negative. Think twice before saying anything bad and don’t take a second to say anything good. That’s not being politically correct, that’s just good manners. It leads to a more colourful life and relationships.. As Dale Carnegie said,

Be lavish in your praise and hearty in your approbation.

If only people knew how little they are in the big picture and how little their life is and their scope of success is, they will shut the fuck up and listen. Because listening is a better investment of your time than speaking (sometimes not though but generally it is). There’s a youtube video of Tai Lopez in which he says that when he met Elon Musk, the billionaire CEO of Tesla and SpaceX, the whole conversation involved Elon listening to what Tai had to say about the social media landscape. And after that Tai was like “Wait. What just happened? He’s the billionaire and he had me talking the whole time?”

People want to be in control. And when they’re speaking, they find themselves in an illusion of control. Whereas in reality, the person who’s listening has more control because he’s the one selling. Selling his attention. The proud speaker who craves attention is desperate for the calm listener’s attention. The listener can cut off the conversation by directing his attention to some other source politely.

Anyways, I’m sick of these proud attention seekers who are ready to dump all their unsolicited opinions. So I’m just ignoring them or cutting them off when they get too self-obsessed. And it has helped me stick to my sanity. I just don’t want that kind of energy in my life. And I do my bit by not speaking too much or interrupting people. Why the hell don’t people realize that interruption is rude? Sadhguru said that people in ancient India identified themselves with their ignorance because your wisdom is limited but your ignorance is unbound. So by identifying with the unbound, you broaden your mental horizons and get a richer experience of life.

Good night.

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