How Non-Monogamy Helps Ease the Fear of Mid-life — There’s a desperation that comes with getting older, an increasingly insistent sense that time is running out. You wake up one morning and realize, odds are, your best days are behind you. Some call this desperation a mid-life crisis, which seems too dismissive. It’s more a reckoning. In the urgency…

Raising Boys as a Non-Monogamous Feminist — As a sex-positive, feminist mom of two boys, my parenting philosophy can be summed up in one not-so-simple commandment: Respect your Kids. From the time they were brand new, I felt a deep responsibility to shape these tiny future men into people I could be proud of. And the lessons…

My initial trip to a lifestyle resort brought more firsts than I was ready for — By: Kate Monogamish Bubbles poured in endless streams from above our heads into the giant inflatable pool below. Little clumps of iridescent foam broke off and floated up into the dancing strobe lights. …

While my husband waited downstairs — KATE: I was deep into post-holiday work mode when a text message lit up my phone. Happy holidays gorgeous. Hope you are keeping well and had a lovely Christmas😚 Would love to cross paths some time. I got messages like this every few months from Justin, a friend we met…

Consider planning your post-Covid vacation now — KATE: One of our big disappointments with the Covid-19 pandemic was the necessity of cancelling our 2020 vacation plans. We had been looking forward to trips to Greece and Miami, but the one that hurt the most was cancelling our annual week long stay at Hedonism in Jamaica. …

After months of forced monogamy, these swingers were eager to play KATE: The last few months have been some of the strangest of our lives. The COVID-19 pandemic has effectively shut down the world. For many of us, it’s been the most concentrated time we’ve ever spent at home with…

When it comes to sexual athleticism, there’s nothing like it — KATE: If there were ever a sexual Olympics (and there should be — imagine the advertising dollars!), one of the premier events would most certainly be the double-penetration. When it comes to adventurousness and athleticism, there’s no sex act like it. LIAM: If someone had asked me two years ago…

Two swingers look back on a time when sexy gatherings were still possible — Perhaps the biggest social impact of the coronavirus pandemic has been the cancellation of large gatherings. Schools, churches and sporting events have all been affected, but fringe groups are feeling it, too, like the non-monogamy community we are part of. As swingers, we love to congregate in like-minded groups, and…

We threw away the rule book to redefine fidelity — KATE: It doesn’t take a genius to recognize that the ideal of wedded bliss is broken. For years, marriage rates have been declining and divorce rates have been rising. …