The notion of hospitality of the death
To form a body with the dead is the principle that must govern the laws between living and dead.
Hospitality towards the dead consists in a whole series of services rendered and passage between one world and the other and to make some of the ancestors, others, humans.
To welcome the dead, to remember them, to shelter them, is to ensure the transmission of a history, a memory, an affiliation.
It is to render death livable, to keep the dead alive and to make the life may continue in their retained memory.
Faced with such a heavy task, new forms of hospitality are constantly being invented in societies.
It is the result of a complex process in which cultures, local practices, ideological beliefs and systems of thought are mixed up.
It is the price to pay for the peace of the living and the dead.
Finding the right place and the right distance for the dead remains a social requirement.
In some societies, the best way to behave with a dying host is to ignore the fate that is reserved for them.
For some people, it is an active force that threatens to break into life at any moment.
In others, one speaks incessantly of death, one sings it, one calls it with its vows.
The hospitality of the one who is going to face the great passage is the fact of all not to alleviate the suffering of the dying person who also to duties during this critical period.
The tricks to prepare for his death are multiple.
No matter what form the hospitality of the dead takes, the important thing is to receive them and to enable them to prepare for the great journey. And the best hospitality they can offer is to keep them among the living.
The rites and celebration of the societies to welcome the dead aim at helping each other to accept this separation.
Every deceased after his funeral must find an asylum in a site and must be entrusted to a host who receives him, welcomes him and allows him to continue his death path.
The space where the dead are deposited differs from one society to another.
It is not good asylum for the deceased, only at home. As there is good hospitality only in his land so that the physical reduction of the dead is accomplished.
The necropoles and burial cemeteries are places of asylums of the dead, a definitive haven where serenity, calm and expectation reign.
It is therefore compulsory for all to leave them in peace, to accompany them and to ensure respect for their integrity.
After the burial of the dead, a long process begins which unfolds and ends only with the destruction of the body, in the burial, when a new deceased or a new funeral is put in place.
The riots caused by wars and major industrial works destroyed the burial cemeteries and forced people to flee far from their homes and tombs.
Death is a passage that must be carried out for the deceased, and for society as a whole.
The dead are never far away, nor forgotten.
Death is there, in its place but separated from the living who come to visit it, honor it, helping it to progress towards its definitive becoming.
In some societies, a second time is buried, new funerals are performed to show the dead that they are not forgotten, and above all to help the process of ancestrali — zation that all the deceased must undergo.
Each ancestor must be regularly honored with the vital process.
They are present in the symbolic imagination of the living. The physical relationship with their memory must be appreciated.
Feeding the dead is an example of ways to commemorate the missing, keeping them close to us.
The dead are hosts like the others. They must receive their lot of rites of welcome and good return.
In order to perpetuate the memory of the dead, it is also possible to write to them, to speak about it constitutes another way of safeguarding them, and a possibility of welcoming them between oneself, for oneself.
The living have the opportunity to intervene in the destiny of the deceased.
Even bad deceased have a right to hospitality. It is at this price that the dead will leave the living in peace and will guarantee a long life for those who remain faithful to the commitments taken.
Hospitality to the dead must be given with love. She opposes to charity, given to buy good conscience and ostentation.
Hospitality to the dead through love puts us in contact with death.
It is out of love that each soul is in contact, in conversation with each other ...
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