Holding it Together

Holding it together isn’t as hard as you think it can be. You just need to take one step forward follow by another step, finally you are reaching the end of the race. We can not always be winners of the race, but we can stick with it long enough to end the race. Life is always about finishing the race doing what needs to be done. The obstacles put before us don’t have to stop us from finishing the race. Any barriers can be overcome by a positive determination when we decide no matter what you are going to finish the race. Winning the race is a bonus like icing on the cake. Enough platitudes. Let gets down to the object of my message. Which is all about deciding that we are not weak timid minds that cave in anytime someone decides to knock us down with verbal attacks. I am talking about the bullies in our life that manage to push our buttons and destroy us emotionally. In my youth in elementary school my bullies used their physical presence to sling their arrows of verbal abuse relating to my physical appearance and my inability to speak without stammering and stuttering. Words slung at my lopsided face due to my facial paralsy and crooked mouth. Yes, I cringed and I cried, and I prayed to God to stop these bullies from bullying me.

Despite my emotional turmoil over the treatment I received I managed to overcome my hatred of them. That is not to say what they were doing was right. Bullying under any circumstances is wrong. You need to realize that bullies are most often insecure, and suffer their own demons at home. You may believe your own demons are unsurmountable. Don’t. Negative thoughts can only led us down dark tunnels that can weaken our resolve to turn around the hurt and into a blessing.

Today’s bullies are those who use social media to sling their arrows at us. They are the anonymous bully who finds social media a wall they can hide behind while attacking us with their cruel words and gossip. They know they wouldn’t dare do so face to face. The are to scared for a face to face confrontation with you. Realize this and your social media attacks will have no punch behind it. Unlike those bullies in my youth who were physically present to push and shove me around with their ignorance. Eventually I finally found the strength an resolve to fight hit back with words and fists of my own. No longer could I be goaded into to fight back. I fought back! Now don’t get me wrong returning violence with violence is not always the right solution when dealing with bullies. Yet, a bully learns that he suddenly becomes a coward and runs.

Another and most dangerous bully is the one deeply resents some perceived wrong from those who socially outcasts them because they are misfits in society because of appearances or ideology. They become victims and when they snap under these social bullying they lash out either by extreme violence against their peers, or self by suicide. Sadly we have had far to much of the extreme rampage of violence in our educational community. These individuals seldom find the kind of strength that leads them to seek help and over come the victimization before they victimise others.

It is not a weakness to admit you are troubled over social mistreatment, bullies, and anonymous social media attacks. Reaching out to family, teachers and school counselor, and professional mental health. I did. For it is not a weakness but a strength in character. The kind of strength that defeats the bullies in our world, and lets you reach the end of your race. Reaching out and seeking help should be a welcome d resource to prevent you from harming yourself because you can’t deal with the emotional turmoil that builds up in your mind, heart and soul. Never believe you are at fault for what others do to demean you, say and gossip on social media about you. If it’s gossip and like most gossip there are a very small grain of truth in them. Unfortunately true. When we are dealing with truth we need to find the same strength we found in seeking help. Again I must impress on you that it is not an weaknesses when we face truths in our lives and come forward and face that truth. No matter what it is, whether it me lifestyle choices, something you did wrong, or the fact that you being singled out by bullies. We need to be “holding it together” to allow us to finish the race. As I have said winning the race may not me in the cards for you. Just might be reaching for stars when we need to focus on just finishing the race. Then again going for the win is just what it takes to “holding it together”.