Your Kids and Their Needs
No matter how old your kids may get, they are always going to look back at you for your approval. They are always going to look for you in the crowd at the talent show, look for you when they are busy playing in the sandbox with other kids, look at you for approval when they purchase a prom or a wedding dress. This does not end here; they will even look back at you when they are marrying the person they are going to spend the rest of their lives with.
The thing about children is, no matter how old they are or what kind of a life they live; they are always going to need their parents to fall back on. Whether it is a helping hand or something as simple as attention, there are things that unbelievable piles of money can’t get them, and that are your love and attention. Your children simply want you to:
Take Pride in Their Achievements
While it may not seem like a big thing to you if you tell your child how proud you are of him or her for getting a simple B- in the test that has been studying for the entire week, but you cannot even imagine the impact that praise is going to have on your child’s psyche. The same goes for cheering the loudest at his football games and talent shows as well as award ceremonies. It does not only help build your child’s confidence but also give him the knowledge and the assurance that he or she has someone to fall back on.
Leave Them Alone
Whether you may want to do this or not, at one point or another you are going to want to leave your child alone and by themselves, not because you want to but because it is something they, as soon to be adults should learn about. They need to understand the way to live their life when they are by themselves and no safety net to cushion the blow once they do decide to venture out in the real world. Also, you should keep in mind that even though you are handing them their freedom and the choice to live their life the way they would want, it doesn’t mean that they would want you to abandon them completely. They still want you to be there for them, you just need to learn to how to make sure that they know you are there for them yet you trust them and care about them.
Keep Them Grounded
While everything in their life might twist and turn and change, taking on a new form every few months or so they need you to be that one constant that anchors them on solid ground while they go out and chase their dreams. Therefore, while they move-out, go through colleges, see the world and have relationships with people, they need you to stay in your family home, the one they grew up in and stand guard of their dreams while they make something of themselves.
Let Them Solve Their Own Problems
You may be the superhero in your child’s life. Still he would want you going around fixing all of their problems and neither should you do that. Giving your child a sense of security and the knowledge that they are their own person who is responsible for their own destiny and their mistakes are the best thing they can learn from and repeat them.
Name one person in the world who wouldn’t sleep better at night if he or she knew that they were being watched over by somebody who could protect them. The same goes for your children, especially in times like today where things like child abuse and kidnapping are much more common than they ought to be. Since desperate times call for desperate measures, it is worth mentioning here that in such times, parents can’t take care of their wards alone. They need parental monitoring applications as good, efficient and reliable as TheOneSpy to help them out and be their eyes and ears in places they cannot physically be to take care of their children and keep them safe at all times, no matter what.
Originally published at www.theonespy.com on August 1, 2016.