Why Can’t You Stop Ruining Your Own Life? The Mysterious Ways We operate in!

In this post I get personal again. I want to provoke you into realizing the ways that you can be setting yourself up for failure. There are many ways that you are acting like your own worst enemy. If you don’t believe me answer this: Have you ever decided to go on a diet, but them you didn't? :)

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This is universal, and it happens in more sinister. Imagine people who’s lives are completely ruined by self-destructive behavior, people who let them self be obese and addicted to drugs. It’s especially weird if these people cannot plead stupidity but were completely aware that they were doing something that was bad for them.

You might say that people do things like that because they are in tough situations. Maybe, but that’s not usually enough to explain it. The key fact here is that these behaviors make things worse not better not matter how bad things started, they can get even worse.

I believe these behaviors are because we are social. We shoot ourselves in the foot so that other people don’t do it for us. This is easiest done if you think about a chimp called Champy. He’s trying to get laid and get a lot of food. He has great plans about how he will dominate the group. But as soon as he tries he gets killed by three dominant chimps. Sad story.

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Now how could Champy avoid an outcome like that?
Well he could try a tiny bit, just sense the environment and if he gets a tiny hint of failure he should just stop himself. In other words Champy has what I call “A representation of the enemy”. He doesn’t need other chimps to kill him, he can just kill his own projects. I think that’s what we do all the time.

I killed a lot of the things that I tried to do before they had a chance to survive. Before I was sure they wouldn’t work. They were things that probably would have made my life awesome, but I killed them too soon. The tribe life that humans evolved in makes us wary of doing something that will (my thought I’m not an expert here) cause the group to dislike us. Moving up is risky in a limited world. Our world can accommodate more upward motion, you are less likely to die if you try to be famous these day!!

I hope you take a lesson from this because, It feels really good when you are not killing your own projects, pay careful attention to what you’re doing. You could be actively destroying your life without noticing.

I hope reading this helped you!!

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