“What nationality are you?” is one of the most common questions I’m asked. However, it is asked by those who would not be classified as caucasian. They are asking because they think I am the same nationality as they are. Rarely is it ever the case. Most commonly people think I’m Middle Eastern, Italian and Greek. I’m not. I am a mixture of 5 nationalities and have never been outside the US nor do I speak any language besides English. Simply put I’m an American, Northern California native.

I think it is very important to consider the person asking. It’s also important to remember that you can ask questions back. If you want to know why it matters to them, ask. If you want to know if it will change their opinion of you, ask.

We tend to give people more credit than they deserve when they ask such questions. We think that because of the times we live in people should be more sensitive and knowledgable and that simply isn’t the case. People ask questions they shouldn’t all the time. For instance, if someone tells you a friend or loved one passed away or died and doesn’t say the cause — DON’T ASK. It is rude and insensitive. If they want you to know they will include that in the same sentence.

I wasn’t with you at the time of the question so I have to go with your gut on this. Please don’t think everyone is the same though. If you do you could miss the opportunity to education someone.