A therapist has a lot more questions:
Usually, you have a therapist it’s becasue the answers to all of those questions are not exactly what you want. Therefore, your therapist should help you answer several underlying questions such as:
— Before you even begin to pursue your goals, reflect upon what they are. Why are they important to you? Whom are you trying to please? From what value system did they arise? Is it really consistent with who you are? Your personality? Your family? Your community? Your own abilities? Will you enjoy the process of getting there as much as the idea of the achievement?
— How realistic are those goals, considering who I am, and what my skills are at this moment?
— If you think you want to get from here to there, what do I have to give up to do that? Is that really worth it to me? Maybe that’s why it’s not happening?
— If you are looking back, what is it that you regret or feel guilty about? What did you learn from that? Do I know what to do now? Do you think you could do it?
Remember, all of our lives, especially now, are very complex. Our moods, ideas, views, and even values often change as we absorb new information, have new experiences, and mature. There are strong currents of genetics, family and society that push us along. We all have to decide when we ride with those currents and when we need to fight against them.
Part of your therapist’s job is to keep things real.