Stop the Madness: Perfectionism and Online Community Moderation

  1. Notice: As the line between striving for excellence and perfectionism can be blurry, it’s easy to cross without being aware. To notice and be mindful, get curious: Am I taking longer than usual in responding? Am I distracted? Am I berating myself for not be as good as other moderators? If so, perfectionism may have creeped in. What next?
  2. Neutralize: Our instinct can be to try to stop the perfectionistic thoughts. However, when we try to block a thought, it usually comes back stronger. Test this out: Don’t think of a blue elephant. Don’t think of a blue elephant. Don’t think of a blue elephant. What are you thinking about? Blue elephant?! Most people would! Instead of pushing away, add supportive thoughts such as “Good enough is good enough” and “I’m striving for excellence, not perfection” to neutralize the perfectionistic thoughts.
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Brooke Huminski, LICSW

Brooke Huminski, LICSW

Psychotherapist I Psychiatric ER Clinician. Intrigued by the intersection of physical, psychological, and spiritual health. @brooke_licsw Twitter