— as taught in Dialectical Behavior Therapy — helps us understand that there are three states of mind, (which is to say: three ways of looking at things). Understanding these three states of mind can give you perspective when looking at a specific problem or when you are feeling stuck.

Try it out...

See what comes to mind when you look at a problem through the three states of mind…

Reasonable Mind …

… is the state of mind that is logical and scientific. It is concrete evidence mode. Reasonable mind might help you do things like fill out your taxes, follow a recipe, consider pros…

As any trauma survivor knows, the news is full of triggers that can prompt difficult memories and make you feel overwhelmed. Understanding that traumatic triggers can pop up at any time is a good reminder of the importance of practicing consistent self-care. Practicing self-care after a traumatic event is just one way that you can take back control of your own emotional well being and safety.

Self-Care Checklist For Dealing With Trauma Triggers in Your News Feed

  1. Have a self-care plan for when unexpected trauma reminders hit you. Write down a few strategies that have worked for you in the past when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed. It can be…

The holidays are upon us, which brings a lot of happy celebrations. The holidays can also bring a lot of difficult emotional triggers, such as painful memories, grief for family members who can’t be with us, or challenging dynamics with family who are with us. Use this checklist to plan your self-care so that you can enjoy the upcoming holidays to their fullest.

  1. Take time for yourself.

It is easy to feel lost or overwhelmed during all of the holiday hubbub. Even if you are not at home for the holidays, plan ways to make space and time for yourself…

Therapists do a lot more than ask “How does that make you feel?” We actually have a lot in common with teachers. We teach our clients how to identify old habits that can be harmful, and also how to learn new skills and develop better habits. Some of those old habits may include depression and anxiety, addiction, or any other habit that makes you feel worse and worse over time.

Yes, old habits die hard. And yet, you can increase the chances of success if you follow some good advice along the way. The best therapists use principles from adult…

One of the most common reasons people give when they first seek out therapy with me is:

I just don’t feel like myself anymore.”

Life throws some major curve balls that can get in the way of you feeling like yourself. Stress, grief, life transitions, depression, anxiety, relationship stress, and even positive life events — such as a wedding or the birth of a child — can make life feel overwhelming and hectic.

A lot of people feel like they have to give up part of themselves to manage all of this stress. You can get used to setting your…

Dear therapy clients,

I am writing because there are a few things that I’d like you to know, whether they are spoken or unspoken during the therapy process.

You are strong and brave - even when you don’t feel like it.

I see you. I see all of you. I see your strengths, your talents, your challenges, and your vulnerabilities. I see you as a whole person, doing the best that you can. I know that you sometimes feel weak; meanwhile, I get to see exactly how strong you really are. You are brave enough to open up to a therapist like me, so you are brave enough to make many other powerful changes in your…

Marsha Linehan (the emotional genius behind Dialectical Behavior Therapy) explains that there are really only four solutions to any problem. Guess what. She’s right.

Go ahead. Try it. Take the first problem that pops into your mind.

Solution #1

Change the situation or solve the problem.

  • Solve the problem by mobilizing available resources, ideas, and willingness to change.
  • Leave harmful situations either temporarily or permanently.

Solution #2:

Change your feelings about the situation.

  • Turn the negative into a positive.
  • Look on the bright side.
  • Eg. “At least this terrible situation brought us closer together.”

Solution #3:

Radically accept the situation as it is.

  • Don’t change a thing, but decide to accept the situation “as-is.”
  • Eg. “It is what it…

Why Burnout Prevention in the Workplace is Important

Burnout prevention:

How Can I Bring Burnout Prevention To My Workplace?

A 30–60 minute burnout prevention training will teach your staff how to:

  • Recognize signs of burnout
  • Understand the body’s stress response
  • Use mindfulness strategies to interrupt stress in the workplace, and
  • Take steps towards a better work-life balance.

Contact me to schedule a burnout prevention training for staff and leadership teams in Oakland, San Francisco, and throughout the Bay Area.

Give this piece a little clap if you think others could benefit from thinking about their own burnout prevention plan.

Anna Lindberg Cedar, MPA, LCSW is a Bay Area burnout prevention psychotherapist and founder of Therapy for Real Life. Her personal mission is to…

As a therapist, I hear the most common complaints that teens have about their parents. I have to say, they have some really good points. Take some time to reflect on your own parenting style and think about how you might respond to some of these most common critiques from teens.

You Don’t Get It.

Let’s be honest: you really don’t. You are from a different generation. You may have grown up in a different geographical region. You certainly didn’t grow up with the pace of today’s technology. Even still, you can relate to the teen experience if you pay…

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