Telling an underrepresented minority what they experienced and when they are “allowed” to call it racism/sexism/etc just feeds into the unequal power structure run by the dominant group.
As a therapist, you SHOULD know that you don’t get to define what someone else’s experience is/was.
Marin Heiskell

Another piece to this is — part of what makes being a racial minority in America difficult is not even knowing all the time if something is “race card”-worthy. Yes, there are times you experience blatant and malicious racism, but you still feel the death-by-a-thousand-cuts from all the little “That could have been racist… or maybe I’m being too sensitive” moments, too, that add up over decades!