That’s the part that your young Teflon-coated white or Asian male is just better at than you, probably since he has been told he is the natural-born shit every day of his life and you haven’t — actually I’ve seen research that suggests it’s because we have learned we must completely succeed at a task or we have failed totally, so partial success is harder on us — but ladies and people of color, you need to make a promise to yourself that if you are going out, it won’t be because you quit on yourself.