Well said- calling masculinity [and by corollary- femininity] a lie is a good way to bring people up short — so we can think about what we mean by those terms, and be more aware of why we are using them!

It is much more useful to focus on variation in attribute expression, and the value and opportunities of this diversity, than it is to try to restrict and reduce variation.

I finally realized that conforming to ‘masculine’ norms was severely hampering my emotional well-being, relationships, and the richness of my life.

It is a little strange at first to reach out for a dress as a doorway into my neglected being, but I recommend it for my fellow men!

The benefits of so obviously shedding all the expectations of me and my fellow men have been very rewarding, and I am starting to feel again so many things lost way back, each time I or my peers were ‘corrected’ [ordered/reprimanded/humiliated/shamed/rejected] for deviating from the role, and …’acting like a girl’.

So much of what is wonderful about being human —every quality — such as innocence, intelligence, compassion, courage, etc. has been classified by gender and split everyone up into fragments. The dysfunctional relationships between men and women, and between members of the same sex, and consequently their children as well, are founded in this split.

A simple solution- drop the norms and declare freedom. Be the person you fell yourself to be, explore expression freely, and be mindful of the commercial and political interests that will continually try to coopt and control every trend.