“No, actually, he won’t. He won’t go away and he won’t leave us alone and actually ‘engaging’ is one of the best ways I know how to keep myself safe.”
Why Women Smile at Men Who Sexually Harass Us
Hanna Brooks Olsen

You’re not speaking his language. Men live in an angry and violent world. If I follow my own male intuition, I’m flummoxed as to why you haven’t pepper sprayed the hell out of any of these men. Or clubbed them with a black jack. The one guy you mentioned was homeless and you’re white; there’s no legal barrier at all! So it follows that men do this because they’re just not scared of you and you’re fair game thusly.

I’m likely to be nervous if I encounter a man on the street at night. Not so much if I encounter a woman because I know she’s convinced that I’m planning to kill her and leave her in a dumpster somewhere.

The world runs on terror. If you could make that homeless man so terrified that he couldn’t look a woman in the eye, he’d stop harassing them. If enough women got this through their heads, they could all get a slice of silence pie too.

I get why you do what you do- there’s some kind of defense in being winsome and polite. If babies weren’t so cute, we’d never put up with them. But to a man, it’s fairly anti-intuitive.

BTW, homeless alcoholic junky bum types tend to have bad ankles and/or knees so they’re not hard to take down and they’re likely have a pocket full of spare change to boot. Consider it sexual harassment tax.

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