You’re not speaking his language. Men live in an angry and violent world. If I follow my own male intuition, I’m flummoxed as to why you haven’t pepper sprayed the hell out of any of these men. Or clubbed them with a black jack. The one guy you mentioned was homeless and you’re white; there’s no legal barrier at all! So it follows that men do this because they’re just not scared of you and you’re fair game thusly.
I’m likely to be nervous if I encounter a man on the street at night. Not so much if I encounter a woman because I know she’s convinced that I’m planning to kill her and leave her in a dumpster somewhere.
The world runs on terror. If you could make that homeless man so terrified that he couldn’t look a woman in the eye, he’d stop harassing them. If enough women got this through their heads, they could all get a slice of silence pie too.
I get why you do what you do- there’s some kind of defense in being winsome and polite. If babies weren’t so cute, we’d never put up with them. But to a man, it’s fairly anti-intuitive.
BTW, homeless alcoholic junky bum types tend to have bad ankles and/or knees so they’re not hard to take down and they’re likely have a pocket full of spare change to boot. Consider it sexual harassment tax.