If you say you’re fat, you’re fat. I tend to think of the word as a descriptive; e.g. I’m 5'9", fat, brown eyes, brown and gray hair, and everybody has the right to self-identify. How about we go with you are fat, and very, very sexy? As you’ve pointed out, the two are far from mutually exclusive. Excellent post, and hot too. Not a woman listed I’d kick out of bed for eating crackers. Too bad so many of them are talking ‘bout men. :)