This is not love; it’s emotional abuse…

When someone is aware of what your love languages are and then consciously and deliberately chooses to ignore them and withhold them from you;

this is a form of emotional manipulation.

It’s a deliberate attempt to try and hurt you.

It’s a deliberate attempt to try and exert control and power over you.

It’s emotional abuse!

There are many different types of behaviours that make up emotional abuse, but this is arguably and perhaps without question one of the most toxic forms of emotional abuse there is.

Because it damages someone’s self-esteem and self-worth so much.

The abuser KNOWS that these are your love languages and they KNOW that by withholding them from you that it hurts you.

They may withhold spending time together with you, affection or physical touch, emotionally mature conversation and communication; it could be a many number of things.

But there is only ONE reason they do it; CONTROL!

Every now and then they will give you a small taste of what you’ve been missing, and then they’ll take it away again so quickly that you’ll wonder if the gesture was even real in the first place.