Sumant, what are *your* specific concerns? Specific to you…things that you’ve experienced that lead you to believe so strongly against feminism? Not what people have written in comments, but what *you* have experienced.

I wrote in my piece about my experience with the Distorted Masculine and it is so much better for us to relate to these issues from our experience rather than others’.

I am worried when I dove in to your comments on other blogs and saw a pattern of reaction that indicates you thought that you personally were somehow demeaned.

I think this is the central false belief in MRA/MRM. Feminists and those who support them aren’t personally attacking all men when they make statements, and specially YOU. I can say that reading things and feeling slighted by them isn’t specific to feminism/anti-feminism either. It’s everywhere. The bigger person in realizes that your own actions and behavior are what you can control, and that people need to respect you for those.

My deep problem with MRA/MRM is that you don’t focus on good positive things men can do, you only look at how feminism has wronged you. You start from a place where people owe you something rather than look towards a goal, and that makes it really tough to get anywhere.

Speaking of, what are your goals with this issue? I’m curious to understand what you actually want out of all of this? A girlfriend? A wife? New respect? Change in gender norms? What?

We better get used to the idea of women having more power, because shit is changing fast. We aren’t going back to some sort of 1950s dystopia, so you have two choices: Fight it and be miserable and alone…or realize the True Masculine of purpose, presence and respect towards *everyone*, but especially towards people who need men to do more of those things: women…and realize your potential.

I hope you understand I’m not trying to troll you. I am genuinely curious and, while I obviously disagree with your views, I want to help you understand that being present is the most masculine thing a guy can do. All of the attention, love, support and wonderful things in life come from there…letting go of your anger and mistrust of women is the key to happiness with women, I can vouch for this.

Josh