Recently my ex hurt me so bad, it shocked me out of where I was. I ended up walking down a street, crying, and then saying “but I love you”. A switch then flipped. It is not to say all my feelings are processed, it is not to say I won’t feel every phase of grief, but it seemed like a major milestone. Since then I have been mostly firm with her, without bringing up the past or being emotional. The relationship has changed, and I feel less need to care what she thinks or to explain my perspective. It had been an exhausting waste of time, but now, I am headed in the direction of a place where I care less — all because I was able to say our loud “I love you” and then start the process of letting go.
