Why Gratitude Is The Secret To Fame, Fortune & The Perfect Body (With Scientific Proof)
There are plenty of reasons I shouldn’t write this.
I remember watching the World Trade Center burn and fall with my friend’s parents inside of it when I was in 6th grade.
They came to school the next day without a Mom or Dad.
Before that and since then, friends and relatives of mine have died. I have been rejected, made fun of, and been deeply hurt by people who I thought were my friends.
I have felt betrayed and unloved and looked down upon… and in all likelihood, these things will happen again.
And it is inevitable that you, I and everyone we know will die sooner than we want.
… I also watched them build a new World Trade Center.
And in the meantime, babies have been born and families started.
I have been surprised by good people.
I have been loved and rewarded by friends and family.
And right now… We’re alive!
Is it weird that I am grateful for it all?
I can’t help it. I have a story about why…
You see, I spent too much time thinking about all the wrong that was happening in the world and in my life and it turned me into a monster.
I felt resentment… ill will… discontent…
All of the thing you can only feel when you are ungrateful.
I’m convinced it was these feelings that took all the money out of my bank account…
And took away my friends.
I couldn’t look in the mirror without hating myself…
I was blind to all of the things I should have been grateful for.
And yet no matter how you look at the world, you are blind.
The world is 100% bad and 100% good. That’s 200% total.
You can only see 100% at a time.
It is up to you how much of each you want to see.
Gratitude takes your problems and makes them much smaller. It takes your successes and makes them much bigger.
And this is the secret to achieving fame, fortune and the perfect body.
Not only in your mind but in reality too. It’s proven by “science.”
Gratitude & Fame
Step 1: Be Grateful for The Audience You Already Have.
Everyone has an audience.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a performer, a creative or not. You have people watching you.
You have people living alongside you in your sitcom of a life.
Even if it’s just your family.
When you show them that gratitude, that audience will grow.
A 2014 study published in Emotion showed that people who exhibit gratitude are more likely to have others pursue a long-term relationship with them.
And while I am always skeptical of these borderline pseudoscience feel-good articles, it holds true in other areas.
Gratitude is one of the strongest energies we have as humans.
People want good energy so the more you show gratitude, the more good people will come to you.
For instance, it’s well known that people like people with high self esteem.
Gratitude, as it turns out, can help improve that self esteem.
A 2014 study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that gratitude increased athlete’s self-esteem (which helped them perform better).
And other studies have shown that gratitude reduces social comparisons.
Fame, fortune and a “perfect” body are all relative terms.
One man’s fame is another man’s obscurity.
When you are grateful for the audience you have, you fill the empty space where your brain would focus on the audience you don’t yet have.
You give your audience the mental energy and focus they deserve.
And you put yourself in a new class.
Notice how often celebrities with 50+ million followers show gratitude to their fans. It starts with being grateful for just one person. Who is that person? Think of them right now.
Step 2: Be Grateful for Your Good Fortune.
Research has shown that people tend to feel more grateful for experiences than inanimate objects.
Yet even if we take fortune as as all-encompassing term referring to money and experiences, gratitude is still the ultimate magnet for more good.
Money and good experiences do not go to where they are needed.
They go to where they will multiply the fastest.
When people say the rich are getting richer, and the poor are getting poorer, it is because the rich are better at making money multiply than the poor.
Money naturally moves in this direction just like all rivers run to the sea.
Experiences are this same.
When you are grateful for what you have, it doesn’t keep you from working more for your money or new experiences.
It will make you more realistic with money.
In my experience, when I have shifted my mindset from neediness to being grateful for the income stream I had, it opened up new income streams and my income doubled.
And there are studies to support this.
In a study relating happiness to income, it was shown that gratitude has been shown to raise optimism levels and self esteem and people who are positive and have strong self-esteem have higher incomes.
In the study, these happy folks had a 10% higher income than the average.
Step 3: Be Grateful for Your Body
I was born with a facial deformity and birth defect. So I was self conscious throughout my teenage years. That adversity taught me lessons that I am grateful for.
No more self consciousness because now I have gratitude. Perfection is an idea — it doesn’t exist in reality.
When you focus on being grateful for the physique you have, you don’t waste time dwelling on what you cannot change.
I was able to have reconstructive surgeries as a baby and into my early twenties thanks to my parents. Not everyone is able or willing to go so far as to have surgery.
It entirely depends on the individual.
However, if you can change something, and you really wish to change it, gratitude puts you in the right mindset to take the actions you must take. I wish I started there.
I thought that the surgeries and reconstruction would make me feel different about myself. They didn’t. I only found new things to dislike about my physical appearance.
Then I found gratitude. Then I started working out. Then I found more things to like.
Research conducted at the University of California at Davis and the University of Miami has shown that people who focus on gratitude spend more time exercising and enjoy report fewer health complaints than their non-grateful counterparts.
So if you’re trying to get to the gym or generally feel better about how you look? Start with being grateful for what you have right now.
Here are the steps to do it.
4 Ways to Increase Your Gratitude For Greater Success & Happiness
Gratitude is a muscle you use everyday.
Each time you take time to be grateful, you strengthen and grow that muscle.
When you develop this quality as a consistent habit, it takes hold in your psyche and becomes your natural response to challenges and victories alike. This daily practice is best approached in 4 ways:
- Keep a daily journal. Even writing down just one thing that you are grateful for each morning or night can be a life-changing practice. It’s an effective reset. You will find that less bothers you throughout the day. Showing gratitude in journal form has the added benefit of creating a record you can look back on.
- Express gratitude to other daily. There’s nothing like saying “thank you” or “I appreciate showing someone you are grateful for them by offering a gift or even better, your presence and time. Showing someone gratitude not only reinforces the social relationship, it also reinforces to yourself that you are grateful.
- Write a no-send letter. If you’re more shy about showing other people gratitude, you can write them a letter. There’s no obligation to send it. This is merely another way to express your gratitude to someone you love and remind yourself of your good fortune for having them in your life.
- Meditate & end with gratitude. A great time to count your blessings is when you’ve cleared your mind with meditation. When you close your eyes and visualize experiences you are grateful for… and you imagine those moments vividly as if you are stepping into them… you are reliving those experiences in your mind. This is yet another way to reinforce your gratitude and boost your mood for the day.
Any of these will work. It all depends on what you want to do with them.
I use all four interchangeably but anchor my gratitude practice by ending my meditations with 3 experiences I am grateful for and mentally stepping into them as if I was there for the first time.
That’s probably why I can’t help being grateful everyday.