How do we recover a lost generation?
Michael Marinaccio

Thank you for this article. You tied your research together beautifully and I admire the message you are sending. However, as a member of this demographic (and one who is recovering from pornography addiction at that), I feel as though there is a major point that was missed. That point is the acknowledgement of the role of shame and stigmatism in the perpetuation of these cycles of stagnation. When someone is in a situation in their life in which they are uninspired or unable to change themselves and their circumstances, society has historically stigmatized the habits and issues these people face, thus creating an extreme sense of shame around them. I will tell you from firsthand experience, when you are ashamed of something, it makes it unbelievably difficult to will yourself to get help. At this point in the cycle, people on the outside are looking at these folks and scratching their heads, wondering what they can do to help. Addiction and an unfulfilled life can and does cause anxiety. People dealing with anxiety do not always operate “rationally”. When these folks don’t feel like they can reach out for help because of the stigma that has been built around them, their habits continue, and often (especially in regards to pornography consumption) lead to the perpetuation of systems of oppression and abuse. So, my short answer to your headline would be this:

In order to “recover a lost generation”, you need to first stop referring to them as lost.

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