Fear does not prevent death, it prevents life.
This quote used to make lot of sense to me. But what Naguib Mahfouz — the original author — doesn’t tell you about it is that the fear itself prevents nothing. Focusing on the fear prevents life. Sometimes.
The hero and the coward
Let me tell you a really simple story. Two guys are walking on the street when suddenly, an asshole appears and try to steal the bag of a girl waiting for the bus. You got the picture? Right.
What happens next is that the first guy run away. The second one run at the asshole to prevent the girl from being stolen.
Record this scene on a video and show it to a bunch of people. What will they think? What do you think?
“Well, the first guy is a coward and ran because he feared the asshole. The second one is a hero and didn’t feel that fear, so he saved the girl.”
You’re right. And you’re wrong.
Probably that the first guy is a coward and the second a hero.
But the point is: both of them felt fear. The only difference is that the first guy used the fear to run away. The second one projected the fear on the asshole to defeat him.
Fear is natural. All of us feel it.
The question is “what do we decide to make out of it?”
“The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear, projects it onto his opponent, while the coward runs. It’s the same thing, fear, but it’s what you do with it that matters.” — Cus D’Amato
Dare to fear.
We all have a hero and a coward in our mind. We all feel fear. Fear is natural. Whether we fight or we flight depends on which one we trained the most in the past.
You WILL feel fear during the rest of your life at some points. It can be because you’re aggressed, but it can also be because of your feelings for someone of because of your challenges.
If you don’t, it means that you stay at home during the whole day, doing nothing and trying nothing new. And it’s this shitty life that you should fear.
I feel fear when I think about my next challenges, when I think about crossing the USA by bike, when I think about how I’ll deal with money at some points.
It’s natural. But it’s my decision to use this fear as a powerful energy to go forward and create what I really want.
It’s your decision to decide to train the hero in you instead of the coward.
It’s your decision not to run away when you have to face your feelings.
It’s your decision not to escape when you have to challenge yourself.
This article is the second in a serie of seven articles I’m writing during the Hell Week. A week in which I wake up at 6am, write one article and publish one video per day. Learn more about this challenge here!