You call us “males.” This rather bland and clinical nomenclature absolutely absolves itself of regarding any distinction between the behavior of a boy, and of a grown man, as worthy of mention.
I’m not sure whether I should say “No duh, Captain Obvious,” or send a free drink to your table for illuminating my point to the audience, you Smolderingly Hunky Brain. ;-)
This November I celebrate my 29th anniversary of having been seventeen, and I greatly appreciate what you say about Manhood being a gradual achievement. A lot of gay males much older than I am still don’t get this. (A lot of straight males don’t understand it either, but it appears to me that the problem is worse in the gay community.)