It’s not the end of the world

Tiana Popovic
Aug 22, 2017 · 3 min read

It might sting from time to time, but as the years pass, you’ll start to be grateful. Grateful for that love you felt. And grateful that your heart has the capacity to love that strongly. To feel that much. To love so powerfully.

Recently I’ve seen many of my friends and people around me who have been heartbroken and inconsolable. This has taken a toll on me as I feel strongly for those I choose to surround myself with and as a firm believer in love, I am writing this in the hope I am able to help them believe in love again. I’m not writing this to subject your feelings or devalue how you feel — I just want to remind you of a few things:

  • You will spend so long trying to make someone else happy (whether you notice it now or after) — but you’ve forgotten how to make yourself happy in the middle of it all. So stop worrying about trying to impress someone, you are enough and that is forever. In saying this,
  • STOP TRYING TO FIND REASONS TO BE UNHAPPY. There is so much more in this world than those who decide not to love you back. It’s unrequited love and it’s going to hurt like a biaaatch, but it isn’t the end of the world. Life is too beautiful to leave your key to happiness in someone else’s pocket. You should love yourself in this world harder than anyone else — people will fall in love with you for that.
  • If they hurt you, you should know they have no right to decide whether they hurt you or not. It’s YOUR feelings, DO NOT let someone else determine how YOU feel. (This is so important, I could write an entire post on just this alone.)
  • One last thing… Do not be afraid of not being loved in return. It’s a learning curve — you won’t always receive what or who you desire. It’s a fundamental rule in this life! :D

You are going to fall in love with yourself. That hurt will turn into recognition that you are a powerful and beautiful source of love. And you can turn all that hurt into something beautiful.

Eshays I agree.

If you find yourself loving someone who doesn’t make you appreciate who you are or who you were before they came along, that person isn’t for you. You will not believe in love while attached to someone who belittles who you are. You might be scared to let go of that love but if there is any substitute for love, it is memory. You’ll always have the memories! :)

If there was one thing I could say I wish I knew before I grew up is that you will always owe yourself the love that you so candidly give to other people. If you feel like you need to leave everything alone for a while, that is okay. Those who care about you will understand. No one should underestimate the magic of a fresh start — you can earn a lot of happiness on your own.

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.

— Lucille Ball

To sum up how I feel, it’s not the end of the world. Be one with what is — It’s difficult but it’s totally worth it. :) Nothing worthwhile in this life comes easy so keep fighting and fuck whoever makes you unhappy about yourself. Lastly, you’re going to move on! You’re going to find happiness beyond him or her and in the process, you will unconsciously find every reason to love yourself again.

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