Project 365: Day 114 — Amores Perros

I frequently have a POV on pretty much everything. And I do judge people based on their tastes and habits. But one thing I try not to judge someone else about is their relationship with another person. Mostly because, regardless of how good or toxic it is or isn’t, it is only what they make of it. They make the rules, we don’t get to judge.

My partner and I have had a tumultuous phase in our relationship before we got together and a lot of it caused pain too but I don’t think anyone gets to judge because he is still MINE. Mine to love, hate, judge, marry and kill. He might be the most obnoxious specimen on the planet sometimes but he also makes me happier than he irritates me.

I am a cynical person while he’s as cheery as a Cheshire cat on most days. I know that in the years to come, there will be conflict and disappointment, loads of it from the most unexpected quarters in our relationship.

The important thing is to remind yourself that you chose this person (your friend, partner or anyone else) for better or worse. Even when things are at their extreme worst, you have to keep reminding yourself that love is why you were in this.

Remember that at the end of the day, no one else can make your decisions for you. You have to make your own rules with the other person. No one else gets to judge or decide.

Most importantly, be kind to yourself. It’s never easy to love someone intensely and deal with your fair share of problems. But every relationship worth having goes through a churn. Things usually turn out better too. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Step back, take a pause if you want. But if it means a lot to you, don’t give up easily. Do what works for you and don’t let others dictate terms.

Remember to be kind to yourself because love is a bitch. That’s how the title translates, by the way. Take a breather every now and then when needed.

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