Project 365: Day 30 — On Treating People with Dignity
I’m writing about this a second time with a slightly different perspective. The last time, I wrote about treating your juniors right. This time, let’s talk about the multiple people we don’t give enough credit to. I cannot stress enough about the importance of treating those less privileged than you right. There was a furore on Twitter recently over a former Union Minister making her domestic help / nanny stand behind her table while the family dined. Yes, the proper thing to do would be to have your maid sit at the table with you and offer her a meal of her choice. Surely if you can afford to pay for a meal at a restaurant and hire a nanny to look after your child, you can afford to feed her at the same table as yours. But why just fault the Minister? I have lost count of the number of restaurants I have been to where nannies have been made to sit separately, chase after the kids while the parents chitchat, fair enough, but it doesn’t mean that the maid isn’t entitled to a meal at the restaurant. I find it horrible that people do not feed their maids at restaurants when they’re with them.
Why just maids at restaurants? I know of people in workplaces that don’t treat peons, office boys, pantry boys with respect. The fact that you’re in a senior position in a workplace doesn’t give you the right to treat someone poorly. Being emphatic and authoritative in a workplace is important, but it surprises me that it comes with a sense of entitlement that makes some people think they own other people. It is easy, really easy to make someone less powerful feel really small. The ‘do this or else…’ attitude is something you can get away with because you have the power to crush someone.
But behind every story where someone else gets crushed, is a crusher waiting to get screwed over. I do believe that the worst tormentors, those that come with that false sense of entitlement, of owning the people they mistreat, get their own just desserts served to them in due course. Setting yourself up to get upstaged and screwed over is just something that’s lined up in your destiny. Karma turns up at unexpected moments and hits you in the face when you least expect it. If there is a thing worse than being unpopular (it’s not a crime, by the way, it’s just supposed to be a good thing to be likable), it is to be unpopular or hated for the way you treat people. It’s also tells a keen observer so much about where your thinking stems for — where you think nothing of yelling your head off at someone that’s powerless.
True power isn’t being able to charm people into bending to your will. It’s simply about treating people with right — with dignity and respect. Most of all, remember that at the end of the day, the peon, security guard, cook, maid, nanny or pantry boy you are speaking to is also a person. If you can treat a person like a human being, it’s all you need to do.
And with that, I’ve finished Day 30 already. Like what you’ve read? Head over to my profile to see my past work. Thanks for reading!