Is this the plague of our Generation Y?
Fast-paced development and flexibility are part of our generation. They are not only required by our job market but can also be found in everything of our daily life, even as far as our romantic relationships. Being not bound to one location and earning our income online, we do belong to the spearhead of happenings. After all, who can live more flexible than us?
Some are of the opinion, that this incredible fast-paced development and flexibility comply our zeitgeist. Others say it is a plague, which destroys us. It doesn’t matter how one thinks about it, obligation and commitment seem to be terms of a past age in our Generation Y.
Long ago, the word spread that in capital cities such as Berlin, lots of humping, tindering, and grindring happens but long-term relationships are easier to be found elsewhere.
„I cannot really commit myself right now” belongs to the standard repertoire in Berlin, used at the second or third date at the latest. After all, something better might come along. On Tinder, or at the cheese counter. Better no bond at all than not being able to be “flexible” at the right moment.
This phenomenon is not only limited to dating, but also applies to many other areas of life. It is also present in business, especially in the location independent one.
Newest invention in the area of entrepreneurship is the so-called polypreneur. A polypreneur is defined as an entrepreneur, who does not commit to anything, looses interest in a project after a short time and would prefer to do everything at the same time. Another perfect example for the phenomenon of our time, as described above.
Here, you finally should ask yourself what is going wrong that so much misunderstood flexibility is celebrated as a special type of entrepreneurship. One, who lacks patience to finish a book, should start relearning this skill.
That’s how I see it with being able to be perseverant with projects. Lack of endurance is nothing one should celebrate.
Man has forgotten that enthusiasm, passion and love — no matter if in relation to a person or business, over time needs work or even to be fought for. This knowledge has been erased from our collective memory.
The Credo says: The love and passion for something or someone needs to be there instantly, otherwise it or one is worthless. There is a need to invest effort? Where do we end up, thinking like this?
Blogger declare recommendations in articles about searching your passion. The headlines are “How to find your passion”. It sounds like passion is something which got lost, sitting somewhere on a lonely country road at a bus stop waiting to be picked up by its owner.
But also passion needs to be worked for. It cannot just be found. Just like as little as you can find love. Butterflies in your belly, they can come by themselves. But they have as little to do with real love, as the number 13 and a day full of misfortune. They can show up at the same time, but often enough appear also independently from each other.
The English word “commitment” has several meanings in the German language. It stands for obligation, engagement, investment, bond, fixing, confession, warranty obligation, dedication, responsibility, bindingness and promise.
Personally for me, those words have something magical, and are becoming more appealing with increasing age.
Because he who has a binding agreement, commits and takes on responsibility, works for something long term and gives other people a real chance at the same time. No matter if it is in relation to a business, love or all other areas in life.
Especially us, who are changing their locations like underwear, are kings and queens in terms of non-binding nature. We prefer to keep all our options open. We don’t commit to anything, where we sleep next month or which great new project we take on next.
It is always set up to not incur strong bonds with a place or person.
Certainly this is one of the reasons why life as a perpetual traveller fits the current zeitgeist perfectly. Easy, fluffy, non-binding. And in matters of dating, just take a nomad, no compromises. Because if one wants to go to London and the other to Paris, then one would not go to Rotterdam instead.
I don’t criticise this life choice, to live free from commitments and I catch myself in many areas of my life again and again, to stay noncommittal and to be volatile. Furthermore, I love the freedom to move around and not having to stay in one place to make a living. But if you don’t have some ties in relation to place, you might possibly need them all the more in other areas?
I would like to convey this personal realization to you: In most areas of life in which I managed to commit myself in some way in the last years, the greatest things have happened.
In commitment lie passion, a great team and prosperous projects, which give long term joy and spark a passion. It does not have to be that way for you, but maybe it is worth a try.