I don’t have a candy jar exactly, but I do buy snacks for myself in bulk and offer them to coworkers frequently. They sit on the bookshelf behind me, next to my lunch box and other personal items — not set out like a candy bowl, because I don’t want to snack all day and I don’t want to be obligated to provide food for everyone else. My boss was in my office one day, saw my jar of peanuts, and asked me for some. I happily said yes, all fine and good. But now she just helps herself without asking, which irks me. I’m not going to say anything because she buys food for us all the time and I am happy to share them — I just wish she would ask first!