While I completely appreciate and respect her position in terms of her “right” to make her own decisions in life, friends, politics, sexuality, etc. what she is asking and how she is appealing to her readers and/or those who she says “love her” is in large part the very reason there is such a polarized distinction on the issues surrounding LGBT rights and positions in society.
What I mean is that the position she holds says either love me the way I want to be loved and prove it to me by giving money to a cause of her choosing or get out of my life. (Which by the way is her right) This is exemplary of the exact ideal that she is appears to be opposing. She is saying it is my right to have these rights and you should support them regardless of your rights and perspective because if they are contrary to what “I” believe then they are wrong and you should apologize and and even more give time/money to prove how sorry you are… Then I will be able to see you love me by agreeing with me.
Well love does not mean simply agreeing with you. Love is choosing to pursue you and support you the best way a person knows how based on the set of convictions and/or would view (wether flawed or not) that they at that time of their life possess, while allowing room for having different beliefs and positions on various issue including LGBT positions and far beyond that topic. I’m not now making a claim on whether I am for or against LGBT rights, I am saying it is ok for a person to take a position on the issue, but that doesn’t and shouldn’t automatically determine if that person loves you or hates you. For the record I am all for the rights of people to choose. their sexual orientation, but that doesn’t mean I agree with their decision. It just means I agree with the right to choose.
(I scrolled back up to insert this: please bear with me read all the way trough as this next segment is a bit of tangent, though is true about what I believe, I do get back to the point…)
However, I too have the right to choose even if that position is contrary to the lifestyle (not the rights) of the LGBT folks. Because it is ok for me to believe that that lifestyle is unnatural and unhealthy for individuals and society and is an indication of deeper desires and yearnings only to be filled by a perfect loving and patient God who gave the only perfect gift of Jesus in while we were all broken and imperfect people seperated from God because of our imperfections, we are ALL made whole, perfect and complete in Him. I’m not saying you can’t be gay and love God. I’m saying that I don’t think based on my understanding of the Bible that it is his best hope for people. I don’t believe He created it that way. But (unfortunately) at the same time there are issues and things in my life that are contrary to what the Bible says and it/they always leave me in a place that is not ultimately fulfilled and leaves me broken and in despair. Though Jesus covers a multitude of sin (decision and contrary to God’s perfect and truly loving will) in Jesus God put on display His unconditional Love of all man kind!
(Sorry for the Gospel Tangent, though I believe it is what truly matters… I’m back on topic.)
I am also not saying that people are or are not born with a tendency toward a particular sexual orientation. Honestly I don’t truly know and therefore offer no judgement on those that feel one way or another. But what I am saying is that we all have things that are tendencies or desires contrary to the guidance and direction of the Bible. But because we simply “feel” this or that is best, doesn’t necessarily mean it is truly in our best interest weather short term or long term.
Thank you for making it this far… that said, my convictions on different issues whether they are the same or different than yours or anyone else’s doesn’t mean that I do or don’t love you any more or less. It simply means we have different perspectives and that should be encouraged and shared and talked about in that we may all be more understanding and enlightened to all sides of every issue that faces us in this world. Understanding all sides of issues is the only true hope we have to come together and unite to deal with and address with EVERYONES best interest issues like Child abuse, pornography, marriage, religion, sexual choice and lifestyle, alcoholism, drugs, freedom, sustainable living, poverty (physically, spiritually, and emotionally), abortion, etc. In humble, honest and open discussion we can seek to understand each other and better know how to truly love and support each other. You can’t tell me I don’t love you unless I give to an organization or apologize. That is not a prerequisite for love. That is a prerequisite for self affirmation and manipulating conditions of affirmation of that person that the other person may or may not agree with and then calling it loving or unloving. Love doesn’t mean I agree with you on issues, it means I want the very best for you and will fight for your rights to be able to freely live and choose a multitude of things, except when those choices say that I am not entitled to my own rights to take positions on issues or topics as I believe you are. You simply can’t say freedom for all unless that freedom is contrary to what “I” (anyone in first person) believes. I love that you and I or anyone can choose. That is what freedom is and that is what is right. Not making people endorse your position rather allowing you and anyone to have a position and not be persecuted for it. This issue appears more about persecution than the right to choose. I think you should absolutely NOT be persecuted for your beliefs and positions on issues. But I do believe a person has the right to take A position or even “any” position on an issue. That is a God given right. That also doesn’t mean that that position on either side of an issue is necessarily “right/correct” though it could be.
Simply: Conditional love is not real love. It’s manipulation. Unconditional love is REAL LOVE. In spite of and even because of ones differences.
Thank you for reading. Please share your thoughts.
Lastly, I must make references to the one who’s love is Perfect and Never fails.
The words of Jesus:
““You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”
Matthew 5:43–48 NIV
“Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
Romans 5:7–8 NIV
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.”
1 John 4:7–11 NIV