Letting it Go

Sometimes when you’re managing young people and you take your job seriously like it’s your life — when they screw up, you tend to think YOU screwed up.

And that was how I felt the past 1.5 years. Everytime my team did something wrong, I would put the burden upon myself. I screwed up. I failed.

It used to get me so angry, so emotional, and was not productive at all for a work day.

This job has turned my perfectionism upside down; I am learning to let go of things out of my control.

  1. Communication problems are out of your control and it will be the root of misunderstanding and panic at critical times (like on-ground events). And that’s fine. Dwelling about it post-event will just add more stress to the pile of everyday work stress. Let go.
  2. As much as you try to make them do work in the way you want them to execute, they are NOT YOU. They are going to do it in their own way, sometimes that will be different than the result in your head, but different is good. They may surprise you with their talents if you give them autonomy for creativity.
  3. Forgetfulness or lack of attention to details may be detrimental but the main focus is quick solutions, action steps, “this happened, so what are we going to do now?” mentality. Point out their mistakes and move on.

And lastly, I’ve been taking a lot of time for myself this year. Last year I took holidays as a reward after grueling period of work, but not in 2016. I’m still one foot inside the office during vacation, but I do take the time to put my phone down and be present in my surroundings.

Work will always be a priority in my life but it’s not the only thing.