Self Empowerment
Are You Really Alone?
Put an end to the myth that claims you are
Losing my father made me feel like I was all alone in this world. I later learned I wasn’t.
When you ask most people why they are feeling down or even eager to enter into a relationship the common answer is “I’m tired of feeling lonely” or “I feel so alone”.
We were born from the womb by ourselves unless we are a twin, triplets, etc. Due to this, you often hear people refer to themselves as coming into this world alone or someone telling another “We were born alone and we will die alone.” How was that even possible?
Myth: You were born alone and you will die alone.
If only we could remember when we were in our mother’s womb. Since we can’t let’s look at what research says. At eight weeks a fetus begins to respond to touch around the lips and cheeks. A fetus begins to explore its body by the 11th week. By the second trimester, taste buds are fully developed. Research has shown that what a woman eats during pregnancy impacts the taste buds of their infants. In the womb, the baby is indeed focused on self and the greatness they are being shaped into.
The point was that there was a dependency upon the mother from the fetus in the womb. At no time inside the womb is the baby growing in isolation from the mother’s action.
Then there is delivery. A doctor, a team of nurses, and other medical professionals are there in the room with the mother during birth. You also have the father, a family member, or even a friend that is most likely there as well. The team is right there to receive the baby. The baby goes from being held in the womb by fluids and the umbilical cord into the arms of the doctor. The baby travels through a few arms before landing in their mother’s arms.
You were not born alone. You had a team around you from the moment birth started. I will even say from the moment the mother found out and announced she was expecting.
Again, unless you were a twin, triplet, etc. you were indeed the only one enduring the process of traveling from your mother’s belly into the arms of the doctor. However, you were not the only one engaging in the process.
Life is filled with processes. Everyone has to endure their own process. We cry out feeling lonely when the process is hard or it feels like no one else is going through what we are going through. There is no escaping the process. What we experience shapes who we are. You have to be processed.
The thing to remember is that while you are enduring there are people around you engaging. It could be those close to you or even a stranger that says something you really needed to hear, shares a story that connects to what you are going through, or blesses you with paying for your groceries because you were the person behind them and they felt like being a blessing. The universe is engaging in your process!
If we stop looking at the obvious and want someone to physically be by our side, we would see that while we are enduring our process, the people, places, and things (the universe) are engaging. Our focus should be on how the process is developing. Every process teaches us something.
When my father passed away, I remember telling God there is no reason for me to be here because I couldn’t envision living life here on this earth without him. Suicide whispered in my ear and Depression wrapped its arms around me. As depression rocked me suicide whispered, “you are all alone”. Through processing my grief and enduring the pain that was coupled with it, I soon realized that while I had to go through it, I had people engaging in the process with me. There were friends that checked in on me about my grief occasionally (people), the blocks around my neighborhood where I would go walking and one day ended up dancing in the unexpected rain (places), and those television programs where the person began to speak something that touched my heart (things).
Through prayer, I gained the strength to break the hold and silence the voice. I grabbed the hands of the people, found serenity in places, and embraced the things that spoke positively to me.
I have functioned for four years now without my father. I have gone through other processes I had to endure during those four years. Even now as I am writing, I am enduring a process.
Are you really alone? No, you are not. You were born with love surrounding you. You are living a life with love surrounding you. When you transition from this world you will be missed by the love that surrounds you.
It starts with answering “No” to that question. Just like the fetus in the womb use your senses to see, hear, smell, taste, and touch your greatness and the abundance of love that is surrounding you!
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