On Human Interaction

“In the real world, you have to make an effort when you go out, work up the nerve to approach someone you’re interested in and be charming and personable,” said Michael Manes, founder of Mixxxer.

I woke up one day and decided to delete my twitter account and Facebook account. Tired of fictitious friendships I quit social media. Just because you like each others posts, comment or directly message each other doesn’t mean that you are friends. Most of the times the relationship only goes as far as the keyboard.

Probably once in a while you bump into each other at social events. However, all you do is have stupid conversation that entails howdy and how have you been. It’s just impossible to go beyond that point. The same also reflects in those messages you keep sending to each other. I asked a friend why she’s always texting people and her response wasn’t surprising. “I do it so that the other person feels ‘connected’ so we don’t have to meet, she said. Simply put just to entertain you till I get bored.

How do you create important human connections? Face to face interaction. There’s something intangibly real and valuable about it. It is significant for friends, partners, employers and other recurring people that make up our everyday world. Let them not be just someone whose disembodies voice pops up on your cell phone. You can’t compare an hour spent over lunch with back and forth texting. One claiming to be busy is just an excuse. Either you are a poor time manager or it’s nothing beyond the keyboard. The latter being the most likely reason.

With the fictitious friendships, constant communication and feed of information about one’s life eventually dries up and without warning. You then simply vanish from the other person’s life. Soon you end up making a new friend and the cycle goes on and on.

Try text or direct message your friend let’s go for lunch, do it and experience the difference.