Trevor Crow
5 min readMar 19, 2020


Relationship “Hygiene” in the Time of Corona Virus

Now is the time to check in with how you behave in your intimate relationship. We are all going to spend lots of super close “together” time in the coming weeks and (hopefully) not months. Do you want to work together as a team or be in a together in a miserable, disconnected space?

Everyone of us is anxious and worried about what is going on. Now more than ever we need to be emotionally available to one another, and soothe each other in the face of this unprecedented scary moment. Especially in our intimate partnerships, we need to soothe and support one another.

By relationship “hygiene” I mean how do you communicate? Does one of you yell, make lots of noise, blame or criticize? Does the other shut down, go silent and withdraw? It is time to discover what your communication style is around your emotions in your relationship and intentionally shift. By “cleaning” up your commuincation, you will grow your connection, creating a deeper love and trust between you.

At the end of this, as a friend joked the other day; there are going to be lots of babies in 10 months and or lots of divorces.

Let’s talk about what you can do to create a calm, caring and safe space for you and your partner. This is a fantastic opportunity to find a way back to connection, compassion and love. You will have ample time to do this.

First some basic rules of engagement. Don’t call one another names. Try very hard not to use “global words” such as always and never. (Most things…