Judy, wonderful piece. I like the reframing of the “happy marriage” mentality. As I think back on the 50 years my parents have been married, I can remember their fights and I witnessed the stress they were under as a couple. I didn’t get to see behind the curtain to how they made it work, but they did find a way to lean into each other. That’s an observation I’ve never made before and I appreciate your drawing my attention to it.