Very powerful, I felt this in my gut as I was reading. I don't think you should forgive yourself for anything. A relationship is two people, not one person. I highlighted a few parts of your story...and I completely relate to what you said about refusing to tolerate unacceptible situations. Since my divorce 5 years ago Ive become a totally different person with much greater boundaries who will actively defend my own well being and interactions with others. I write about the aftermath of my own divorce here: https://medium.com/@toddwardphd/finding-myself-after-divorce-d34803a51e4c

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Todd Ward, PhD

I’m a behavioral scientist and zen practitioner. I write about life, relationships, well being, social justice, and human suffering.