Tom AddisBlockedUnblockFollowFollowingDesigner and writer.Aug 22, 2016Here’s the thing: ADULTS know that the in-love part fades, then ebbs and flows with work, attention, and active caring over the years. It may take months to fade, or it may take years. But it is the obvious eventual side effect of the very familiarity you seek. True monogamists are not afraid of the lack of spark or butterflies; that wonderful but ultimately transient and even shallow feeling of being in a state of love. I say shallow because everyone eventually has had that feeling — and strongly — for a person they know they have no business dating. Chemistry doesn’t give a fuck if you’re deeply attracted to a Republican who would make you incredibly miserable. Once you’ve had an experience like that, you don’t put a lot of stock in what your blood thinks is a good idea.In Romantic Relationships, You’re Either a Spark-Chaser or a Long Burner.Sara Lynn Michener1.1K68A brilliant summary of adult relationships. So succinct, funny and painfully true. Fantastic writing!