Stop Sitting on the Fence

Do you like the cover art? I made it myself.

Obviously, I am not very creative — a point which is further emphasised by this true story…

When I was in first week of university, I had to pick between Psychology 101 or Introductory Biology as my fourth and final unit for Semester One.

I picked Biology, because, well, I thought it would be easier.

I almost fell asleep in the first lecture, where we were informed we would be learning about drosophila for the first semester. Drosophila are also known as flies to us non-biological common folk.

Biology was looking like a poor life choice.

In the first laboratory session, we had to draw a fly as seen under a microscope. Since I didn’t know anyone in the class, I was sitting on a table of other First Year’s who didn’t want to reveal they had never studied biology before and had no idea how university worked

Some people were raising their hands to ask questions, but most of us just wanted to avoid answering any questions because we hadn’t done the readings.

When it came to using the microscopes, I was paired with a Persian lady, whose name I cannot remember.

This lady was really nice, very polite, and seemed like the kind of person who would not hurt a fly (I mean drosophilia).

We had to draw our pictures and then compare with the other person for feedback.

My new friend’s drawing was insane — the detail was incredible and I could not believe what I was seeing. It was like Da Vinci was back and had decided to take a first-year biology class just for kicks.

My fly was a mess. It was a hybrid stick-figure with a circle in the middle. If you took it to your Year Two Teacher during second-period, you would find yourself back in Year One after lunch time.

It was awful, but I was aware I could not draw and did not really care.

When it came time to share feedback, my new ‘friend’ said: “that’s not very good, is it?”

I think I replied with something along the lines of “no, not really good” and laughed it off but inside I was thinking ‘well no, it wasn’t, but surely you didn’t have to say that!’

The class ended and I went home, dropped out of biology and moved into psychology instead.

I didn’t swap purely because of that feedback.

I knew the drawing sucked, but I also did not enjoy biology and the syllabus would, and nearly had, put me to sleep. Also, once I figured out that psychology was mainly waffling about your thoughts with a few references in there — which I am pretty good at — the switch made sense.

The biggest thing I took away from this experience was that feedback was spot on — the drawing sucked!

Yet I thought it was rude when someone told me the truth, because it wasn’t nice to hear.

In the end, I dropped out of the unit, moved to another one and while I didn’t find psychology 101 to be overly interesting, my ability to write and recite questions from a textbook got me a grade far beyond my understanding of the subject.

The feedback was spot on, and the action I took benefited me. I should be thanking that lady!

We can all get a bit precious when it comes to feedback. No one likes to be offended, so we don’t want to get negative feedback even when we know it’s true.

Likewise, we get so scared of offending someone that we sugar coat important feedback that could help people.

In the end, we leave opportunities to help people, because we were too worried about their reaction to say something.

My challenge to you is to get off the fence. Whether it is seeking out or providing feedback that you are qualified to give.

I am going to do the same.

Firstly, I want you to give me feedback on how I run things via this survey. Be honest, it makes a massive impact on how I run my business. Whether you are a client, friend, fan, or cyber stalker, it all helps.

Secondly, if you want me to get some feedback on your training and nutrition to achieve a goal you might have, this is my final invite to come in for strategy consultation.

It will be my turn to give the feedback you need, but might not want to hear.

I have an 11am Saturday session reserved for the next six weeks (every Saturday until 13th May, excluding Easter weekend) and it’s first-come-first-served. Once these are filled, I may open up a few weekday consultation times and batch 3–4 consults during this time (but this will be after Easter).

That’s 6–18 sessions available to review your current training and nutrition relative to your goals, and then develop a strategy to ​​​​​​​optimise it.

It’s not a sales pitch either. Unless you are interested in Online Training, I don’t have any capacity to work with you right now.

After this six-week block, there won’t be any more Strategy Consultations until the next financial year. Since we are at training capacity, they are unlikely to continue at all (in-person).

You do need to complete the Tracking Challenge before you can book it in, which takes seven days from the start.

If you keep sitting on the fence, complete it later, and miss out, there’s nothing I can do.

I have been offering these sessions for six months and dozens of people have taken advantage of them and implemented change or become clients.

Some of you have been sitting on The Integrated Insider for over six months, some for years, reading every email. While I appreciate the support and readership, it’s time to jump off the fence and come on in.

So if you want to get feedback, complete the Tracking Challenge and I look forward to meeting you soon.

PS: my drawing standard has not improved, as will be evidenced by any diagrams or drawings I put together during your session.

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