Bravo. I loved the article. Every line of it. When people say ‘get over it’… it does feel like they are abandoning you, doesn’t it? It makes you feel more alone. Which is both good and bad.
But their invitation to be dishonest with yourself, dishonest about your experience, just because that’s easier for *them*, is BS, as you suggest. I don’t think a true friend would say ‘get over’ some kind of real trauma… advise you to pretend, in effect, it isn’t there.
Ya gotta own it. It’s part of who you are. And it just might eventually be a source of strength, when life smacks us hard… and they might just fold up under that future circumstance. Because they are too weak to admit that pain is real, and sometimes has to be lived with.