Identity Theft or Identity Surrender?

Thomas E. McDaniels

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Charlie Chaplin was the runner-up in his own look-alike contest.

It’s true.

According to legend, somewhere between 1915 and 1921, Chaplin entered a Chaplin look-alike contest, and lost.

What does that reveal? People do not believe in who you are.

Even when you, are you.

Did identity become an issue for Charlie Chaplin? I think not.

The dictionary defines identity as the distinguishing character or personality of a person; the relation established by your psychological and belief system.

Belief is a filter and so is doubt. Doubt is common. Self-doubt even more so.

Medium writer Christopher D. Conners says; “If you succumb to fears and worries on your journey, take solace because the world’s most talented and successful people find themselves in moments of doubt, just like you and me.”

Charlie Chaplin must have suffered the circumstance of doubting himself. Thank goodness Charlie Chapman never allowed this circumstance to steal his dream to be a star. Our beliefs are connected to our destiny.

We must never allow circumstances to steal our desires and dreams. Circumstances are temporary and create the opportunity to believe lies.

Professor Henri Nouwen shares the five lies of identity:

  1. I am what I have
  2. I am what I do
  3. I am what other people say or think of me.
  4. I am nothing more than my worst moment.
  5. I am nothing less than the best moment.

The five lies are on-point. What we have and what we do are poor measurements for who we are.

Failures try to represent us. Success or failure cannot define our lives. Wealth and prosperity are great unless we discover our identity in them.

Wrapping your identity around our beauty or our bodies is vanity. Bodies fail and beauty vanishes. This results in identity surrender.

Identity surrender occurs when we surrender what we believe for what we experience.

We surrender extraordinary for ordinary. We relinquish who we are, and settle for who we can be. We become another person.

Psychologists say; the most frequent cause of self-devaluation is a person’s own uniqueness. 60% of the population would rather be someone other than who they are. Shocking yet true.

“Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.” — Steven Pressfield

Becoming who we already are is enlightening. Everything unlocks.




Before you were born, your purpose was created.

At birth, no one asks, what are we going to do with this one?

God designed you with a specific purpose.

Our purpose will never find us unless we find ourselves!

I’d love to hear your thoughts. You can check out more of articles and video clips here.

Best wishes, Thomas

Thomas E. McDaniels

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