Until You Start Believing in Yourself…

In this period of my life I’m feeling really motivated to create stuff, but there were times when I just didn’t know what to do. What were my dreams, my goals, what did I want to accomplish?

Asking those questions wasn’t so bad after all. It means I was looking for myself. The fact is: people can rarely be confident and can’t really believe in themselves if they don’t know what to do. It’s that sense of purpose, the inner confidence.

If you don’t know what your dream is, if you’re too young to pick on a purpose, it’s okay. Trust me. Les Brown said there are 3 types of people in this world, and I completely agree with that.

  • The first type are the Winners, the category everybody wants to be in until they see the effort it takes.
  • Then, there are the Losers. They set limits, they don’t take action, are not consistent. People who are spiritually dead.
  • Finnaly, the Winners who haven’t found a way to win yet. People who just started working on themselves and on their purpose.

What seperates the winners from the losers, is the effort. The time they put in. People, who are successful in the eyes of society, are those who were not taken seriously. The people who read books, who worked out, the people who improved their lives day in and day out.

The sad thing about our society is- it lacks open minded people. People won’t support you until you have results. They will doubt you, discourage you, they won’t support you. Don’t fall under their trap.

On the other hand, there are soo many people who will believe in you, who want you to succeed. You’d be surprised how many successful people, that I’ve contaced, were so happy to hear from me, and without a problem shared advice and thoughts with me. I blew my mind. Successful people want you to be successful.

There’s one big advantage you need to use: The Internet. The Internet gives you the ability to connect to groups of like-minded people, to ask for advice and gives you the chance to connect to really influential individuals, to whom you wouldn’t be able to get otherwise. Put the internet to good use.

There is always a way.

Cut the negative people out. Don’t listen to them. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals, with people who force you to grow, people who believe in you.

You can either live your live as a passenger or the pilot.

Being the passenger is hard, but being the pilot is extremely hard, trust me. The main difference comes in responsability. When you live passively and reactively, you believe you’re free of responsabilities, you get pushed around by life.

On the other hand, being the pilot in your life gives you responsability over your life, but more importantly it gives you control. You start living proactively and it gives you power over life.

Let’s be honest. You are going to fail on a much bigger scale if you live proactively, it comes with the choice. But, as J.K.Rowling said:” It’s impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live soo cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all- in which case, you have failed by default.”

Living in someone’s shadow and living up to someones expectations is the poorest way of living. It means you don’t have control over yourself or your life. When you live like that, you’ll always find an excuse, someone else will always be guilty for your failiures.

Who’s forcing me to write this? No one. It’s pure love for what I do, and a belief that some day, soon enough, I won’t live the casual life of people who work a 9–5 at a job they don’t like.

There are people who live true to themselves, the ones who know that they have the responsability for the outcome and the results of their actions. These are the people who make mistakes, but they get up and try again. Mistakes are feedback.

Thomas A. Edison :” Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.

You have to start believing in yourself to take a chance at life. Every expert was once a beginner, a beginner who believed.

What you have to do, is stop pointing finger at others. No one of these people is responsable for you, except YOU!

Let’s be honest, your life is yours and only yours. It makes it your responsability aswell.

A scene that’s soo often stuck in my head is the one from Stallone’s Rocky VI:

“BUT UNTIL YOU START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF, YOU AIN’T GOING TO HAVE A LIFE.”

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