Yeah I could see how it’s difficult. Once you are already past the honeymoon phase you can move on to more calculated and frugal goals, but you want to experience things when you first start dating, not to mention, like you did, wanting to spend a little extra something something on yourself to look nice. I think you are on the right track with cooking dinner in, which can be very romantic. Buying a cheap bottle of wine and going down to Alki Beach. Even the ferry is pretty cheap and fun. Or maybe drive to some scenic hikes? Lots of that in Seattle!