Be Interested, Not Interesting

Tooba Asif
Jul 24, 2017 · 3 min read

Though i got it as a challenge in my project work, to focus on “being interested rather than being interesting” but i think this is a habit, worth adopting for the rest of life.

I never knew this strange fact before that the most frequent word spoken in the phone calls is “I”, means in more than half of our conversation we keep telling the people around about our own self, our passions, our goals, our success, worries, stories, and the thing we find least interesting is talking to a person about him/her everything. And more correctly, we focus least on showing our interest in people and focus most on showing our selves as interesting.

I did a 24 hour activity of “BEING INTERESTED” and I came to feel a new world around me. Talking to friends, cousins, family members without telling them the purpose of my questions I kept on asking them “how are you doing?”, “what are your future goals?”, “what kind of things fascinate you?”, “what are your opinions about the current affairs/issues?”. I got so much to know in these 24 hours, or probably the fact is, I was really not showing interest in them before. Some one wrote this quote: “To be interesting, be interested

People actually find you super interesting when you show a deep concern about them. Because there are millions of interesting persons but not every one get to have an interested person.

The fact is, everyone of us wants to be appreciated and feel listened carefully. Showing people a genuine interest in their lives can make you a person, everyone can look up to. World is more open and willing to accept the persons who can set their selves back and offer the genuine passion towards their fellow beings. Being interested is an ultimate gesture of showing your LOVE, and who doesn't want to be loved. Following this idea make people more accepting towards you, because they have ultimately found someone who is INTERESTED!

My experience of this project was awesome.

I really enjoyed it when i talked to a long distance friend asking in details about her routine things and got to know that she is getting super expert in making “rolls and samosas”.

Talked to the girl in neighbors and she revealed her stress about her missed exam and i really felt the worth of this amazing act of being interested.

Talked to a cousin about his job, passions, somehow thinking patterns and current habits and got to know that he has adopted a habit of early sleeping, while he was kind of insomniac before.

and many many more….

In short, talking to people about them is the most rewarding action in sense of both knowing and getting amused. This is the ultimate act of kindness and humbleness.

This is the ultimate philanthropy

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