Rejection is a Part of the Process
It is important for all recruits to understand and overcome the types of
rejection that happen during the course of the college recruiting process. The first type of rejection is indirect rejection and it is the worst type to
experience. Indirect rejection can be best described as a college coach failing to acknowledge you as a recruit. I know that sounds mean, but it is reality and it is essential to understand.
It can be when the college coach has never been to one of your games or has never seen you play. Maybe you have sent an email and that coach didn’t reply or you feel they are ignoring you. You might attend a college showcase combine and see college coaches talking to other recruits, but they aren’t talking to you. All of these would be examples of indirect rejection. Bottom line is when a coach does not know that you exist, you are indirectly being rejected.
Direct rejection is the second type of rejection. This is the type you would prefer, but does not always happen. Direct rejection would be defined as a college coach acknowledging you as a potential recruit, only to determine that you don’t quite fit with their program after seeing you play more or
getting to know you.
Direct rejection occurs further in the recruiting process, after a coach has identified a few qualities in you worth seeing more of. After further recruitment, a coach might decide you aren’t a good-fit with their style of
offense/defense, maybe they don’t think your personality fits, or maybe you just don’t meet the academicstandards of that institution.
No matter the reason, being told no is a lot better than not being told anything! That is why I would always take direct rejection over indirect rejection.
Here are three steps to overcome recruiting rejection:
Accept it as part of the process: Accepting rejection allows you to overcome any fear of failure and will get you that much closer to your perfect school.
Learn from it: You need to try and figure out why you are being told no, so you can better understand your abilities, without bias.
Be true to yourself: Don’t put pressure on yourself by trying to be something you are not. Look at rejection as a form of evaluation. Once you know who you are, you can progress to success!
Coach Andy Kownacki