An absolutely beautiful tribute and sentiment Lily. Your mother would be so incredibly proud of you for this perspective. I lost my mother in a similar way years ago, yet I still carry that pain. I’ve heard it said scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue so pain makes you stronger if you can embrace it. I agree with you, tying your scars to something larger, like the belief that death does not break the bond of our love for one another, or that poverty and illness are not the labels that define your soul, is a way we all survive our pain together.
Thank you for this amazing essay. You are my hero.