In articles that explore the ‘secret’ to a lasting relationship, I’ve come across kindness, tolerance, acceptance, companionship, respect, and many other wonderful traits couples who’ve been together for a long time have.

But there’s something I haven’t come across yet, and personally, it’s something that has worked for me for the past 15 years. I also see this in Michelle and Barack Obama’s relationship.

It’s the most unromantic-sounding trait, but from a purely rational perspective, it’s almost a no-brainer to understand why this is a powerful glue that can hold a couple together and keep them happy together.

What is…

There’s an image that gives me the creeps — that feeling you get when you think something’s crawling on you, or a torturous itch you can’t scratch.

It’s the mental image of myself standing in the same spot, holding a ball and chain much like the one used in the hammer throw, using centrifugal force to keep the ball and chain in the air, circling on its own orbit. I feel stuck, unable to get out of position for fear of disrupting the circular path, therefore forced to actively keep spinning without leaving the exact same spot.

That’s the image…

There’s a lot of passionate debate online over what body positivity means, but I’d like to focus on one part of the discussion: your view of your body. There will always be judgment coming from all directions, but that’s just noise. The most important ‘judgment’ is the one you make on yourself. In fact, it’s not judgment you need, but acceptance.

Having said that…

Yes, you have to love and accept your body just the way it is. BUT loving your body entails taking care of it by keeping it healthy and active.

To say you love your curvy and…

Small talk. Is. A. Waste. Of. Time.

If there’s anything I gathered from observing successful, and often happy, people around me, it’s that they live lives of substance. Every second counts. It doesn’t mean you have to be doing something all the time. Rest, for example, is a crucial part of self-development. But small, shallow talk? Now that’s just useless. Not talking is more beneficial to your sanity than discussing the weather or the latest gossip about someone that has absolutely no bearing on your life.

The older I get, the less tolerance I have for meaningless, shallow conversations at…

Do you know WHY you do what you do? Not knowing is the fastest way to losing your passion and drive, burning out, and going through life asleep.

Over dinner, two friends and I were discussing the twists and turns of our careers and our lives that led us to exactly where we are now. There we were, a surgeon, a lawyer and a TV exec. All of us had a checklist of career goals we wanted to achieve. Because we worked our butts off and worked so hard against all odds, we’ve done them all.

Being the Type-A women…

When it comes to women and relationships, there’s nothing more frustrating than to see intelligent, strong, successful, self-sufficient, well-travelled, beautiful women succumb to desperation. Desperation because of a man. Desperate for the love of a man. In extreme cases, it doesn’t even matter which man. Just any man will do.

He’s got a kid, is getting divorced, has a bad relationship with his ex, and is obviously excited to be single again. He tells you he’s not ready now, but he’ll get there. He tells you he’s searching for himself, but that he would like you to stick around while…

Tough Love Corner

Need some TLC? Sometimes what you really need is tough love.

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