Dealing with Negative People On and Outside of Campus
Although we can all agree that we have all come across a negative person or group of people. And whether or not the negativity was towards you or someone out of the blue, all you knew was that you didn’t like it. Initial reaction might be to silently ignoring them or simply avoiding them at all cost. But then again, what if it was you or your friend or a complete stranger that was publicly targeted. Then will you stand up for yourself and your friend or that “nobody?”
I have seen it many times in cases where if the negative remarks were not directly to an individual, they will simply not dare to question why such remarks are being uttered. Or is it simply that everyone is out just for themselves? There have been cases in which an individual is targeted but instead of standing up for theirselves, they stand in silence or walk away quietly. Rare cases where I have seen anyone actually stand up for the right of all costs; such as for one’s self, their friend or a completely innocent stranger.
Now here of the U of M campus I haven’t yet experience silent bystanders or maybe negative people yet, but I am prepare for what is it to come. Although I have seen the negative acts such as ignoring a complete stranger when asking for directions or simply where the bathroom is. One experience though did stand out to me the most.
This experience about two weeks ago I believe, and I was on my way back to East Bank when a little old lady was standing at the end of the bridge on the West Bank was asking students where a specific building was. As she stood there confused and sort of intimidated as many of the students just walk pass her as she was a talking statue; to me, it was not okay! Now me being me, I wanted to help her, but I didn’t know the campus very well. So far I’ll only say that I know three buildings from the outside to the inside. So I did not want to give her wrong directions as well. But as I approach her, two kind female students already helped her. It was a wonderful site to see.
This particular experience stood out to me because I saw a connection to what we discussed in class. And what I got out of this situation was that one is not to blame if they don’t know how to approach the situation; whether it’s positive or negative. And that always try to extend a hand out for anyone, everyone I believe on the u of m campus whether or not they’re students or stranger; they should feel inclusive in the U of M community.
Lastly I wanted to expand more of the issue of LGBT as well. In my sociology class, I learned that some act might be that a negative person or group of people are against LGBTs because they are simply scared to get labeled as such. So Ina way they tend to act accordingly to society’s vision of gender and “natural sexuality,” and shun out those who are different. But I see it as if everyone can feel freely to be themselves and can careless about what society thinks and portraits to be wrong or right then it’ll make out campus a much inclusive environment as well. And if everyone would be more acceptance of others differences, not as personal remarks but as cultural identity, one’s value of themselves, and their self-worth, and respect what one has to offer; in which so far, I have seen that the U of M students and faculties does a good job at this.
I’ll try to pull out some readings from my sociology class and share some scholarly analysis of this topic as well.