Father’s Day Card for a Dad with Advanced Dementia
I was at the drug store trying to pick out a Father’s Day card for my 86 year old Dad who has Advanced Dementia. Tears are streaming down my face in the store as I browse the selection and I realize most of these cards won’t work.
First, Dad won’t know it is Father’s Day. He doesn’t remember my Mom and often doesn’t realize who I am. So all of these cards that mention the past and good times and how I was as a child? He doesn’t know. Those memories are gone.
How bad is the Dementia? If I hand him a cookie, he asks what to do with it. He’ll follow my instructions and maybe even tell me he likes the cookie. But he doesn’t remember how to eat one.
He was a great Dad when I was growing up. I’m the oldest of 6 kids and he helped us all. Dad was the smartest person I know for most of my life. That’s why this loss of his memory is heartbreaking. And Father’s Day may be the hardest day of all for this…
I did buy a card. And once I told him what an envelope was and how to open it, he did like it. It simply said that he is my hero.
Update: I lost my Dad 9/15/17. Please donate in his honor here: http://act.alz.org/site/TR/Events/Tributes-AlzheimersChampions?pxfid=438193&fr_id=1060&pg=fund